Thursday, April 29, 2010

While we take a short break to study for finals . . . Take a look at this throw back post.

Why do I keep doing this . . . it's like banging my head on the wall.
I really do have the most patient little baby in the world. As impatient as I am .. . that is nothing short of a miracle. But for the first time in my life I wished my baby was a screamer. 
Yesterday I took the day off work to comfort may tiny, tiny and get her to the doctor's office. Turns out you shouldn't lay your baby on her back to give her a bottle because it can cause ear infections - not because the milk gets in their ear externally but . . . well just know that it happens and now Xyla has an ear infection. That wasn't so hard to deal with. She is 10 months old and this is only the second time she has been sick enough to take her in and it is something that is totally preventable in the future. That I can deal with.
So what is this post about? Wal Mart. I truly believe that store is evil. Last Saturday I spent the better part of 4 hours going from store to store trying to find size 4 white cloud diapers. I don't even know why I bothered with the store by my house. They haven't had them for 2 months. I could understand if it was a "oh we just had a run on them and there will be some in tomorrow." Tomorrow never comes. At least the diapers don't any way. Between pack the baby in the car, extract the baby from the car, pack the baby into the store, search the entire baby section just in case the boxes are stored some where they shouldn't be, pack the baby back out to the car, strap her in her seat, drive to the next store, spend 45 minutes looking for a parking space - (why are there that many people at wal mart - stupid economy) pack the baby in from the farthest reaches of the parking lot, hike over to the baby section, scour it for diapers - no such luck, take baby back outside spend 15 minutes trying to remember where I parked the car, tuck baby into car seat, drive to the next closest store - lather, rinse, repeat-walk out empty handed . . . again. I gave up at that point. Either they are trying to discontinue the brand or every baby in the OKC metro is the same age as mine. The buyers for the baby section are seriously short sighted. They think that if they let the white clouds sell out that I will buy pampers. Pampers give her diaper rash. Can't do it. Diaper rash is painful even to look at. 
So after all of that, why - you might ask- would I subject myself to that insanity again? $4 prescriptions. The last time I bought her antibiotics I paid $65 because it isn't the brand my insurance company recommends. (It is, however, the one my baby's doctor recommends and that should be good enough.) So I decided to try to get it at Wal Mart in hopes that it was generic enough to be on the $4 list. I understand that a lot of people hope the same thing when they bring their scripts to wally world but I was also upset when she told me it was going to take 2 hours to fill the prescription. Interesting marketing ploy, they longer they stay in the store the more crap they don't need that they will buy. It backfired on them. Initially I did go pick out some items we really didn't need. A couple of movies, a toy for the baby, razors (just don't ask me to raise my hand is all I am saying) and so on. All together about $70 worth of stuff in the basket. They had told me that at 1:00 they would be able to tell me how much it was. I show up at the window at 1:00 they say well we don't know yet how much it's going to be. Then she says she'll look it up on the list . . . . . . . . . . . not there she says, so she can't tell me how much. Come back at 2:00 and it should be ready. Here is where a particularly grumpy baby could have helped me out. If she had screamed for about 15 to 20 minutes they might have tried to get us out the door quicker. Alas, even sick, my baby is a happy one. She kept flirting with the old men picking up their arthritis meds. The guy that dropped off his script before me was upset and understandably so. The lady was giving him grief. He very obviously had back problems that his doctor saw fit to prescribe meds for and the lady behind the counter, after he left, looks at her co worker says, "He was being just a little too insistent." I am sure that if my back hurt like that and someone told me it was going to be two hours before I could even think about the pills that wouldn't really start relieving the pain for another 30 minutes after that, I'd be insistent too. I mean I had a happy baby and was already considering the extra $61 would have been worth it to get my baby home and start getting to business of getting her well, now imagine if she was miserable. I feel sorry for other moms who get difficult babies. I really do. 
I came back at 2:00. I tell her my baby's name and birthdate she looks it up and says, "it's not ready yet, it's still another 10 minutes". First, don't act like I am being impatient. You don't want me to be impatient. I do that in a very ugly way. So I start off on a lap around the store and start putting back some of the things I thought twice about. 15 minutes later I arrive back at the counter. Some of the things are still in my cart. The things that I didn't necessarily need but could make good use of. This time the guy helps me. I tell him name and birthdate. He looks at the clock and said, "It's not ready it is going to take a little longer". Now I am getting mad but desperately trying not to say something that will get me kicked out of Wal Mart forever. I ask how long, he says probably another 20 minutes. I often wonder if people can tell that I could have let loose on them in a way that would make them question their existence but I am holding back for reasons of decency. 
Instead I take another lap around the store and put back every thing I had picked up except the battery for the baby's thermometer, that I had to buy because I needed to be able to take her temperature when I got home and you know how I feel about "getting it at another store". It's one thing to trek when you have nothing else to do but no when the baby is sick. After 20 minutes arrive back at the counter again. Name, rank, serial number. She looks at me like I hadn't just talked to her 30 minutes ago. She says, "Do you still have your insurance card?" I so wanted to tell her how stupid this question was considering the fact that it was blatantly obvious that I hadn't left the store in almost 3 hours. Where was it going to go? (No, I went over to the office supplies department and tried out the paper shredders) If they paid their people better-better people would work there. This is the pharmacy, these are supposed to be the smart ones. 
She says, "something probably got entered wrong". It only takes Walgreens about 5 minutes to get information from my insurance company about my prescriptions. They knew at 1:00 that there was a problem and that they should have asked for my card again at that point but they didn't. Why do these people not talk to each other? They don't fill the prescription until they get the info back from the insurance company. At that point I was more than upset. Did you know it only takes 5 minutes to process the script and get it filled when they are properly motivated? I am telling you, the lack of hassle is worth the extra $61. And it turns out that particular item was on the $4 list. This was not a saving grace.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Birthday Party At Two Years Old

Today's guest blogger is my baby girl to describe her birthday:

My daddy (the skinny guy) and Big 8 (the big guy) getting things ready for my party.


My daddy got me the most balloons I have ever seen, I gave him a kiss but I am not letting go of the balloons.


Daddy has no idea what balloons mean to me.


Friends and family showed up to show how much they loved me.  It made my special day very special.

That's right, sunshine and rain at the same time.  But that doesn't change plans for a barbque.

So what do  you do at a two year old's birthday party?  You play in puddles, you eat Reese's Peanubutter Cups your uncle gives you and you get down to the music with your balloons.

So many people showed up it was the best party ever . . . even if I have only had one other.

At one point all the excitement go to be too much, fortunately, I had good friends to comfort me.

This was my cake.  Big 8 made sure it was just what I wanted.


I found out that icing is messy, I wasn't real happy about that.  I tried to bite the candle, wax isn't that good.  But really I wanted that Spongebob, he's cool.
I knew exactly what to do with that candle.  I was a little confused as to why everyone was clapping when I blew it out.  Then daddy cut me the biggest piece of cake I have ever seen.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Article about new species found in Borneo

The following pictures are from an AP article about new species found in Borneo.  I am not sure I could deal with this bug.  It is the first time I have had that kind of reaction from looking at a picture of a bug.

I can see why they might not have found this guy earlier, I mean, he does kind of look like a rock in the mud.


Sunday, April 11, 2010

Where'd who go?

You know how sometimes when you are the mom of a toddler, you swear there are somethings that you are looking for that had to have grown legs and walked away?


We spent a few minutes Saturday on campus.  With girls you have to start early . . . 


Getting them used to the idea that they can go to college . . . .


Because it's kind of a big deal . . .


And apparently not far enough in the future.  Is she really only sixteen years from this?


This is the first scrape from falling down that turned into a scab.  She is doing with it what most kids do, picking it out of existence.


And because it was the first part of her they let me see . . . baby feet.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Easter Sunday

Among the waves of home cooking and hoards of children under the age 3, I saw family we haven't seen in far too long.  One girl I had never met expressed that all she needed to know is that I was family and that was good enough for her.

Granny Bowen and Xyla

It's been a Happy Easter.  We woke up late and were not able to make it to church with Granny Bowen and Papa John.  We were still able to make it to a later service at our own church.  Xyla spotted Elmo out of the corner of her eye and hollered after him down the hall at the church before I had even registered that something red had flashed on the other end of the building.  I told her I didn't know if it was Elmo but we could go check it out.  She started off down the hall, a true blessing since it takes us about a thousand years to get her off the stairs near the door where we come in.  That is where you have probably see us before.  Walking against the crowd up and down, and up and down, and up and down the stairs.  She learned to climb the stairs there and is almost tall enough to have a solid solo grip on the rail so she can help herself.

Trying on bracelets.

She actually let Elmo touch her hand.  I was surprised because she usually gets really antsy when anything dressed in a fur suit gets within ten feet of us.  If that gives you an idea of how much she likes Elmo.  I am sure things wouldn't have went near as well if that was a bunny suit.  It's nice to know Elmo is saved.

During the service the song "Watch The Lamb" by Ray Boltz weighed heavily in my mind.  My brother used to sing that song and reduce the room to tears.  Sometimes I wonder if anyone else has ever heard it.  If you decide to search it please keep your tissues handy.  I am not an emotional person, really but this one gets me right around the part of the roman soldier.

The Bowen side of the family.
Since Xyla is starting her new daycare today and they will be going swimming this summer I decided to stop and see if any stores had cute baby swim suits out this year.  So far I am not impressed.  I think she will love the pool.  We picked up Xyla's daddy and and headed out to the I240 end of Midwest City to get lost and then found at the home of family we haven't seen in too, too long.  We were there for a long time.  It felt easy though.  Warm smiles, genuine hugs and many ears for the listening.  Family.

He says "no" and "open" and I am sure he thinks "Happy Easter" in your general direction.


On the grill to escape the noise?  Possibly but it's good barbque.


Told  you.  Starting from the top left that'd be homemade mac 'n' cheese, 
from scratch green beans, 12 hour pot roast, chicken spaghetti 
and in the middle there is sweet potatoes.  We eat like kings.

But chaos is exhausting.  We probably should have left sooner.  On the way home my eyes were tired, tired in a way they haven't been since college (the first time, not this time)
One weekend I was going home after a particularly long week of class/work/class/work/work/class etc.  About three weeks worth of that with no breaks.  I left tired beyond belief thinking I could drink some coffee and be ok for the hour and a half it took to get to my mom's place from school.  About a half hour into the drive I couldn't hold my eyes open.  I literally tried to hold them open alternatingly in two minute intervals.  Coffee was not working.  Did you know there is a tired that even coffee won't help?  I knew I was in trouble but I knew I couldn't stop.  So I prayed.  "Lord, I have to get home, I need to get there safely, please send something that will keep me awake until I get there safe.  I don't think I will make it if you don't."

This is how I know God hears me when I pray.  No sooner did the thoughts leave my grasp and I hit . . . a skunk.  If there is anything that will keep you awake for an hour it is the smell of a skunk in your vents.  I made it home.  I told my mom briefly what happened.  We comisserated over the skunk event that shaped my Jr. High years and I went to bed.  The next morning we went to the store and my mom said that she didn't smell skunk at all.  As a matter of fact neither did I.  It's not something that just "goes away".

On my travel back to school I specifically looked for the roadkill that would represent the sacrifice made so that I could be safe and it wasn't there.  In case you are thinking this was just a case of cleaned up roadside beast - let me remind you this was the weekend and Idaho is not known for being swift on the clean up process.

Sometimes I don't even have to ask God for help because He just knows I need it.  Last night for instance, the right songs came on the radio and there was the most amazing light show via lightening storm that coordinated with the music perfectly and the combination of the two kept me quite alert all the way to Stillwater.  This may be the only time you hear me say this so please listen closely:  "Thank God that Oklahoma is flat and praise him for skunks and lightening."