Tuesday, October 27, 2015

When the Hawk Strikes


I read an article today that railed on the common core math and the teacher who taught it not being able to see that 5+5+5 gets you the same answer as 3+3+3+3+3 and both are correct to the process asked for in the instructions.
 

I completely understand the frustration. Yesterday, for example. Going over Xylas math for the day I noticed a wrong answer that was a matter of semantics. There were two dogs drawn in the box. The question said, “How many feet do the dogs have? Xyla answered 4. This was marked wrong. I know I should let it go because getting into an argument with the teacher about what kind of question is asking for situational awareness and which is asking for a sum is kind of a pointless battle. But just so I can write it down and get it out in public. The question should have been “How many dog feet are there? Because if you look at it technically, Xyla was right. Each dog does only have four feet and the question didnt really ask for a sum total of dog feet.
 

Then we met another challenge. Part of Xyla's homework is to read a passage and then answer questions about that passage. I am not going to pretend to understand my daughter at every turn but the more I learn about her, the more I like her. When she got the last question on this work page different from what I expected, I asked her about it.

 
The story was the Three Billy Goats Gruff. The first two goats trick the troll on the bridge promising he will get a bigger meal if he waits. The largest crosses, troll tries to collect, goat pushes troll off the bridge. The moral is supposed to be "Don't be greedy." So after the reading the first question was, where were the goats headed? The middle two questions were similar. Last question was, "Was it right for the goat to push the troll off the bridge?" She emphatically writes, "NO!" Not certain she understood what was being asked in the question, I asked it out loud, she says no it wasn't right. Not being one to leave this alone I ask her why she decided that. She said because it is mean to push anyone off a bridge.

 
I guess it is to be expected that they will teach moral reasoning by asking the kids to form and deliver an opinion from something not specifically mentioned in the text. But I want to know from the teacher's perspective, what is the answer key answer here? I ask that because the answer's wrongness is subjective.

 
While the pushing could be considered justifiable because, in fairness, the troll was trying to eat him and his brothers. However, I can't say Xyla is wrong. I mean, the first two goats deceived the troll and the third goat solved the problem with violence and went on about his day like he didn't just hurt someone. We are talking some Goodfellas BS right here. This is an eye for an eye vs. turn the other cheek dilemma and I am interested to know which they are teaching my kid. If they teach turn the other cheek, we move to California, if they teach eye for an eye, Texas.

 
Now, I can be accused of putting too much thought into this but this kind of argument played out in my community this week. One lady rescued a dove that was being attacked by a hawk. She wanted to know where to take it to get it care. It is a Eurasian Collard Dove and an invasive species. One guy was super crass and suggested she break its neck and eat it. While everyone else seemed to be trying to tell her where to take it so it can be rehabbed.

 
All I keep thinking is, if she takes it wherever she decides is worthy, they will likely smile nicely at her and take the bird. As soon as she is gone, they will probably put it outside to see if it will fly off on its own. If it doesnt, they are likely to put it down because it is an invasive species.

 
My community thinks that hawks are bad because they are predatory and the dove is peaceful and innocent. Truth is, the number of doves may drive out other native species of bird and predator or not the hawk has to eat, too. He just happens to eat other birds. The hawk eating the invasive species is not necessarily a bad thing. The community thinks the hawk is bad not because the hawk is bad but because they sympathize with the woman who has an emotional attachment to a bird she sees every day. The emotional attachment, peacefulness, terror, etc. those are all human emotions we place on the situation. We do this because of Disney. Just because some character is being delivered as bad doesnt mean it is, it might mean you just dont have enough of the story to make a decision. Which explains the entire genre of the anti-fairy tale. The stories where the author tell the tale from another perspective. Can you say When the Clock Strikes?

 
I dont like the way the crass guy handled it but he was right. It is a measure of what is valued more. What has more value is usually measured by community standard (the womans sentimentality for the dove) and not reality (the cycle of life). If you do a side by side comparison of the characters of the Gruff story you might feel the way Xyla does about pushing the troll off the bridge.

 
Troll lives at the bridge, eats other animals. Is hungry and maybe has some cognitive delays if he is so easily trickable by the goats.

 
Goats do they have a right to eat in the pasture on the other side of the bridge? Isnt deceit and assault also bad behavior?

 
We want to think that the assault is justifiable because the big goat was defending himself and his brothers but what if he wasnt. Have you met a goat? These goats could have been bullying the whole neighborhood. Going house to house taking things that werent theirs. Speculation aside, I like the idea that my child thinks that all life has equal value. Her goldfish is just as important to her as her cousins. That is something that may change over time but for now, even though I am pretty sure the teacher will say it is wrong, I am not going to correct Xyla on this one. Being able to see things another way is a valuable skill. Now that I know she can think that way, I am going to encourage her to use it. There are college students who can't defend their answers intelligently but my 2nd grader can. She might be a brilliant writer someday.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Upsetting the Balance

This is one of those days I wish I had the support to be a stay at home mom. Yesterday was Columbus Day so I had the day off. Xyla did not. I decided to see how much I could get done after I drop her off and before I have to pick her up.



I know I have my best ideas early in the morning. (Most of the time between 2 and 4 am.) So it wasn't shocking that I found that I would be able to get a lot done between the hours of 5 am and 8:40 if I were a stay at home mom. That's two full loads of drying laundry with at least one load making it into drawers. That is time for cooking breakfast as opposed to breakfast in a box. That is getting one kid and myself ready for the day. Getting up at 4 am would afford all of that and enough time to workout and shower. Though I would likely have to wear my hair curly but that would be ok with me.




After delivering small child to school and the bell rings, I jumped in my car and started my day. I allowed myself to be horribly side tracked but it only cost me $25. Then I took my car for an oil change. If I had stayed on track, I would have been able to wash the other two loads of laundry, pick up after the kid tornado that swept through my living room with the neighbor boys and my daughter as F3 force winds and her toys and papers as debris.




I made it home in time to cull all the papers that were living on the freezer, liberate the freezer burned foods that had been trapped there because of the living paper stack and move the plants around so that we had room to use the kitchen table as a kitchen table. I got the dishes done and had a plan of what to make for dinner.




I picked up the small child and we completed her homework before 4pm. That gave her time to play and eat. If I had more time at home, I could do those things that make our space livable that I just don't have time to do right now. We would have ample time to learn Spanish as a family.


Sadly, I don't have this kind of time every day. While it seems insurmountable - I am certain that I can figure out how to get it all done as a working mom. I guess I will just have to start getting up at 2 am to figure it all out.




*smile*